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Parenting is not an easy task that anybody can accomplish with ease. Parenting demands a lot of commitment, sense of responsibility and perseverance during the process of upbringing a child. Roles of parents change according to the stage of child’s development.

Infants: Parents enjoy this part of child’s life the most. It is a memorable experience to witness all the first activities of a child including his first smile, his first words and his first steps. Parents have to just hug, play, laugh and love their children at this age. Infants tend to register in their minds all the affections of the parents including their touch, hug and even voice.

Toddlers: This is the age when children tend to learn anything that they see and listen. Toddlers tend to carefully analyze every behavioral pattern of the parent and try to imitate those emotions and actions. It is the responsibility of the parents to provide guidance about right behavior from the beginning. Parents have to hug, play, laugh, love and teach their children.

Pre-teens: This is the most fragile period of life. Children tend to get influenced by their surroundings including friends, relatives and even televisions. Parents should be careful while guiding children at this age.

Teenage: Best results of parenting can be obtained if the parents stop behaving with a teenager as a parent. This is time where priorities of the teenager change. Friends occupy the top importance. It would be easier if the parent can become the parent. Teenagers should be provided with space to grow. Their individuality should be respected and freedom. Parents have to hug, laugh, and love, teach, discipline and listen to the child.

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She Needs Your Attention: How Fathers Can Build Great Relationships With Young Daughters

By M Neal

Most fathers spend less than ten minutes a day with their daughters. Life has become so busy that time for important relationships tends to get shoved to the side in favor of extra work or out of sheer exhaustion. But it’s an unbalanced equation that has far-reaching ramifications. Young daughters in the tween and teen years especially need their fathers to be part of their lives. They are going through so much change and turmoil that they will need a father who can help them through these years without alienating or ignoring them and their needs and offering strength, advice and a good model.

For many men, relationships are not always easy. It’s often easier to be the provider and lean deeply into your work. It may take a strong effort of your will to make a relationship with your daughter a priority. But it’s worth it, far more so than additional hours spent at the office. There’s not much of more worth out there than investing in a human life.

Sometimes being able to relate in a healthy way to your daughter may mean that you need to work on getting emotionally healthy yourself. Realize that taking steps in this direction are steps of bravery, courage and valor. Don’t let pride or a sense of self-sufficiency keep you from moving forward.

Perhaps you have avoided a relationship with your daughter and now you think it’s too late. Never tell yourself this. It’s been the excuse of far too many people to not invest in the relationships around them. It’s never too late. Perhaps you don’t understand your daughter or the changes she’s going through and it has seemed to alienate you from her. These are things you can learn, if you simply take a little trouble. It is of vital importance that you spend regular time with her. Most daughters lament the fact that their dads didn’t spend more time with them. So, here are a few ways you can begin to build or continue to build your relationship.

• Learn to understand the emotional and physical changes she is going through. Be willing to do some reading. One great resource is What Happened to My Little Girl? by Nancy Rue (Zondervan, 2011), and it’s a quick read. If you are going to spend time with her, you owe it to her and to yourself to understand where she’s at physically and emotionally.

• Eliminate things you don’t need to do like watching television or constantly checking email in favor of spending time with your daughter. Be ruthless in paring away things that distract you from relationship with her.

• Spend one on one time, just you and her. If you need to, schedule it. Just make time for it somewhere, ideally every day. This doesn’t mean being in the same room, but doing different things. Don’t let electronic devices of any kind intrude. Resist the urge to check your phone, or text, or send emails. If you can, leave your devices behind. Make sure she knows the focus is on her and her alone.

• Let her pick the activity sometimes. This will show her that you respect her decisions and interests.

• Share a hobby. If you have a collection of some kind, or you build ships in bottles, or build furniture or do artwork or go fly fishing, include her in these activities. And if she has a hobby of her own, the same applies. You are building your relationship over a shared interest and this will not be lost on her.

• Teach her things that will make her feel confident and independent. Let her mow the grass or show her how to change the oil in the car, or let her help you do repairs around the house. Don’t fall into the trap of letting her age limit what she can do. But don’t push her into activities she doesn’t like just because you think they’ll be good for her. Give her meaningful chores so she can be part of running the household.

Show an interest in the life she has outside the family. Her friends are important to her, so they should be important to you too. Also be aware of how she is doing academically. Help her with her work. Show up to school events.

Always give positive feedback.
Implementing some of these actions will go a long way toward building a good relationship with your daughter. And years down the line, she will thank you for it and you will thank yourself when you see that she has turned out to be a well-adjusted, emotionally healthy woman. Remember, the time you do or don’t take now will have implications for her and for you in the future.

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The Reason Parents Have For Teaching Kids Music

By Tatiana Bandurina

In this article, we will cover the motivation behind many parents enrolling their children in music classes.

I suggest that, before you do this, you define exactly what you want by teaching kids music. Young children adore their parents and they will normally go along with your ideas, especially if they know it will make you happy. Up to a certain age your child considers you an authority on just about every subject on earth. If we are lucky we will be able to maintain that authority into their teen years.

While reviewing my old records I noticed an interesting fact. Whether or not the parent knew the importance of teaching kids music was irrelevant. I was focused on the attitude of the parent.

The first meeting is significant because this is when the parent and student meet the instructor for the first time. Everything goes well normally at the introductory meeting. But according to available statistics, only 1% of parents at the start of teaching kids music think their child will develop into a musician. The other 99% have a “Let’s do this and then see what happens” attitude.

Whatever your field, you need to be passionate about it to make an impact. Children are no different. All parents know that if their child is interested in something the will persistently ask for it over and over. Parents just need to be aware of their children’s interests.

You may be thinking, “Is it really necessary for my child to study with constant interest and pure pleasure all the time?”

None of us are 100% motivated 100% of the time even with our passions in life. If you insist on teaching kids music by force, they will lose interest in it every time. Nobody likes to ever be forced to do anything.

This is a very common situation and I have heard this exact phrase very often from more parents than I care to count. This is the parent talking to their child “I don’t want to go to work but I do, you need to practice more”. It sounds like a work ethic, and many of our parents said that to us. Believe me when I say you are wasting your time and breath, saying this to your child. As adults, we work to survive. Normally teaching kids music will not keep them alive. It will impact their future most definitely but the physical act of teaching kids music is not a life and death choice. This may sound counterproductive coming from a highly recognized and accomplished music instructor, but it amazes me how many parents just don’t get it and insist on teaching kids music.

Don’t get me wrong because there is a time and place to focus on teaching kids music by force. By all means, do not make a habit out of it. Children do best when they are happy. Find the proper teacher with different skills in teaching kids music on a distinctly individual basis. A happy motivated child is a happy motivated music student.

Tatiana Bandurina is an owner of Quintecco Educational Products Inc. She develops a new trend in education – Music Education for Parents. For more great information on teaching kids music, visit http://www.quintecco.com

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