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Parenting is not an easy task that anybody can accomplish with ease. Parenting demands a lot of commitment, sense of responsibility and perseverance during the process of upbringing a child. Roles of parents change according to the stage of child’s development.

Infants: Parents enjoy this part of child’s life the most. It is a memorable experience to witness all the first activities of a child including his first smile, his first words and his first steps. Parents have to just hug, play, laugh and love their children at this age. Infants tend to register in their minds all the affections of the parents including their touch, hug and even voice.

Toddlers: This is the age when children tend to learn anything that they see and listen. Toddlers tend to carefully analyze every behavioral pattern of the parent and try to imitate those emotions and actions. It is the responsibility of the parents to provide guidance about right behavior from the beginning. Parents have to hug, play, laugh, love and teach their children.

Pre-teens: This is the most fragile period of life. Children tend to get influenced by their surroundings including friends, relatives and even televisions. Parents should be careful while guiding children at this age.

Teenage: Best results of parenting can be obtained if the parents stop behaving with a teenager as a parent. This is time where priorities of the teenager change. Friends occupy the top importance. It would be easier if the parent can become the parent. Teenagers should be provided with space to grow. Their individuality should be respected and freedom. Parents have to hug, laugh, and love, teach, discipline and listen to the child.

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The Reason Parents Have For Teaching Kids Music

By Tatiana Bandurina

In this article, we will cover the motivation behind many parents enrolling their children in music classes.

I suggest that, before you do this, you define exactly what you want by teaching kids music. Young children adore their parents and they will normally go along with your ideas, especially if they know it will make you happy. Up to a certain age your child considers you an authority on just about every subject on earth. If we are lucky we will be able to maintain that authority into their teen years.

While reviewing my old records I noticed an interesting fact. Whether or not the parent knew the importance of teaching kids music was irrelevant. I was focused on the attitude of the parent.

The first meeting is significant because this is when the parent and student meet the instructor for the first time. Everything goes well normally at the introductory meeting. But according to available statistics, only 1% of parents at the start of teaching kids music think their child will develop into a musician. The other 99% have a “Let’s do this and then see what happens” attitude.

Whatever your field, you need to be passionate about it to make an impact. Children are no different. All parents know that if their child is interested in something the will persistently ask for it over and over. Parents just need to be aware of their children’s interests.

You may be thinking, “Is it really necessary for my child to study with constant interest and pure pleasure all the time?”

None of us are 100% motivated 100% of the time even with our passions in life. If you insist on teaching kids music by force, they will lose interest in it every time. Nobody likes to ever be forced to do anything.

This is a very common situation and I have heard this exact phrase very often from more parents than I care to count. This is the parent talking to their child “I don’t want to go to work but I do, you need to practice more”. It sounds like a work ethic, and many of our parents said that to us. Believe me when I say you are wasting your time and breath, saying this to your child. As adults, we work to survive. Normally teaching kids music will not keep them alive. It will impact their future most definitely but the physical act of teaching kids music is not a life and death choice. This may sound counterproductive coming from a highly recognized and accomplished music instructor, but it amazes me how many parents just don’t get it and insist on teaching kids music.

Don’t get me wrong because there is a time and place to focus on teaching kids music by force. By all means, do not make a habit out of it. Children do best when they are happy. Find the proper teacher with different skills in teaching kids music on a distinctly individual basis. A happy motivated child is a happy motivated music student.

Tatiana Bandurina is an owner of Quintecco Educational Products Inc. She develops a new trend in education – Music Education for Parents. For more great information on teaching kids music, visit http://www.quintecco.com

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Consequences – Teaching Children About Consequences is a Parents Responsibility

By Patricia Lieberman Baker

Rick is 10 years old. He has been scolded for hitting other children at school. His parents have spoken to him about it and so has the principal. He does it when boys say things to him that hurt his feelings and make him angry.

He has had three warnings and has now done it again. His principal has suspended him from school for 2 days this time.

One of his parents is now going to have to take the day off from work to stay home with him. His parents are very upset but feel like they do not really know what is going on at school on a daily basis. They believe that other children are provoking him when he tells them this, but they know that using physical violence is not the answer.

People make choices.

As children develop a mind of their own it is important for them to learn that there are natural consequences that one faces based on the choices that are made. It starts when they decide to change the channel on the television 5 times after they have been warned to stop.

The consequence needs to be whatever you said it would be if he didn’t stop. Consistency and follow through will be two important keys to introducing the concept of Choices and consequences.

If you do not follow through you risk sending the message that goal posts and boundaries can be moved. This is not the case in the world at large. You may feel like you are helping your child in some cases when you are actually doing them a terrible disservice.

You are their fortune teller so it is essential that you draw a realistic picture of what life has in store for them. Sometimes if you love them you have to leave them to deal with things themselves and figure out that every action has a reaction. Clearly the learning process occurs when they get a reaction that they do not find favorable. They learn that the action generated the reaction that they want to avoid so it is a deterrent against repeating the action in the future.

Pat is the creator of the ‘I Can Do It’ family planner. She looked for practical tools to help keep her family on track and could not find one! I Can Do It! was born from a mother’s desperation to get it right for her family. The program/planner is a fun and interactive family & school management solution which uses tried and trusted practical strategies and tools to teach your children life-skills, as well as social values.

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