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Parenting is not an easy task that anybody can accomplish with ease. Parenting demands a lot of commitment, sense of responsibility and perseverance during the process of upbringing a child. Roles of parents change according to the stage of child’s development.

Infants: Parents enjoy this part of child’s life the most. It is a memorable experience to witness all the first activities of a child including his first smile, his first words and his first steps. Parents have to just hug, play, laugh and love their children at this age. Infants tend to register in their minds all the affections of the parents including their touch, hug and even voice.

Toddlers: This is the age when children tend to learn anything that they see and listen. Toddlers tend to carefully analyze every behavioral pattern of the parent and try to imitate those emotions and actions. It is the responsibility of the parents to provide guidance about right behavior from the beginning. Parents have to hug, play, laugh, love and teach their children.

Pre-teens: This is the most fragile period of life. Children tend to get influenced by their surroundings including friends, relatives and even televisions. Parents should be careful while guiding children at this age.

Teenage: Best results of parenting can be obtained if the parents stop behaving with a teenager as a parent. This is time where priorities of the teenager change. Friends occupy the top importance. It would be easier if the parent can become the parent. Teenagers should be provided with space to grow. Their individuality should be respected and freedom. Parents have to hug, laugh, and love, teach, discipline and listen to the child.

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Eating Disorders – A Letter to Give Your Anorexic Daughter

by Lynn A Moore

Many parents aren’t sure how to broach the subject of a possible eating disorder with their daughter. Often past attempts resulted in conflict and defensiveness and it is difficult to break through to a productive conversation.

I often recommend that parents write a letter that includes their concerns and feelings. This allows the parent to be a bit more objective and less emotional, and it puts their daughter in a position of seeing their concerns in black and white and forces her to sit with the information a bit before responding.

I am offering this sample letter as a template. Use it as a starting place and modify in any way that represents you and your thoughts and feelings about your daughter and her behavior.

Dear Daughter,

The first thing I want to say is how much I respect your strength and the compassion you show toward other people. You truly have a wonderful heart; I know your friends love this about you and so do I. You are not only important to your friends, but you are so valuable to me as well.

I watch you in your friendships and you are such a good listener and take such good care of people you love. My concern is it doesn’t seem like you are taking very good care of yourself right now. I see you eating less and the list of foods you won’t eat seems to be growing longer every week. You also appear to be losing weight and seem to have less energy for the things you enjoy.

I have also noticed you don’t want to be with your friends as much as you used to. I don’t know if you are aware of these things or not, I just want to be open with you about the changes I am seeing. I’m not sure if you are concerned about your weight and how you look, or if there are things you are struggling with inside that I don’t know about.

I would like for us to talk about these things, and this letter is my attempt to reach out to you and let you know I am concerned. I respect you enough not to force you to talk with me about it, and it is important you know that you must talk with someone. It is not an option to not address this, so whether you want to talk with me, the school counselor, another counselor, our pastor or someone else you might suggest, you need to speak with someone.

You are a strong, determined person and I know you have the ability to take the first step and talk about this. I don’t want a response from you immediately. I would like to check in with you tomorrow when you get home from school, so let’s plan on talking then. I love you and we’ll figure this out one step at a time.

However you modify the letter, make sure you keep the respectful tone and focus on the behaviors you see. Stay as objective as possible and minimal with your emotions. Put the letter in your words as much as you can so it sounds like you, her parent, not a form letter.

Do you want to learn more about eating disorders?

If so, download my free e-book “Eating Disorder Basics for Parents” here [http://www.why-my-daughter.com/edb.html]

Lynn Moore educates, coaches, and consults parents on how to help their adolescent with eating disorder behavior. She will guide you through the treacherous waters of deciding what kind of help you need and what you, the parents need to do and can do to help your child.

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The Key to Any Healthy Relationship is Communication, Plain and Simple

by Randall Dakota

I am here to tell you that a happy healthy relationship IS possible. What I am telling you is no different then what you might hear on Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Men’s magazines, or millions of web pages.

COMMUNICATION

Communication takes on many qualities, not just talking and listening. It’s not that simple, but when two people are in a relationship, whether its 2 weeks or 20 years, you have to learn to understand your partner. It’s not a matter of giving in, or doing everything they say. There has to be give and take, understanding, meaning, etc.. behind everything.

If you are genuinely interested in your partner, learn to “listen” to what they are saying and act on it appropriately. It’s not uncommon to hear this argument among couples:

HER: “This is the third time I have said this, can you please take out the garbage”, to which the male response is
HIM: “yea yea, just one more minute the game is almost over”.

Guess how that guys evening is going to turn out? Partners need to learn to follow through on their words. If your partner asks the first time, and you need one more minute, then that is fine. When that minute or two is up, go ahead and go take the trash out. Don’t wait for your partner to come back with a second or third request. Make that a habit and I can 100% guarantee your relationship would improve.

In the case of a man and woman, a woman often just wants to know her boyfriend or husband is listening to her, that he is soaking in her comments/suggestions or requests. When a man puts them on the back burner, he essentially is stuffing them into a portion of his brain that he does intend to get to, but its in a part of his brain that doesn’t retain short term memory.

It is a two way road with communication. Often one partner does it more then another which creates the communication gap to begin with. Sometimes the communication is good, but other aspects of the relationship are poor. Communication itself is not the answer to a healthy relationship, but it IS a critical key component to making a healthy relationship work. Other aspects of a healthy relationship are affection, intimacy, co-parenting, shared responsibilities, independence, and of course love.

Randall enjoys a wide array of personal interests, but mostly around relationships, family, parenting, and more.

He loves writing about his interests and helping other people. He also loves being a go-to person about various knowledge and topics, and hopes his writing will help you in some way.

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